Why? vs. What?

John was born with no arms
But he never asked question,
"WHY do I have no arms?"'
The question he asks is
"WHAT can I do with my feet?"

Having watched John eats with chopsticks, I'd say:
" Almost anything"

When tragedy strikes,
or when we lose everything,
or when a lover walks out on us,
the question we usually ask is "WHY"
"WHY me?"
"WHY now?"
"WHY did she leave me for a loser?"

Asking "WHY" question can send us in circles
Often, there is no answer to "WHY?"
Or it doesn't matter why!


Effective people ask "WHAT?" questions...
"WHAT do I learn from this?"
"WHAT am I going to do about this?"

When the situation is really desperate, they will ask
"WHAT can I do, just in the next 24 hours, to make things better?"

The happiest people don't bother about whether life is "fair"
They just make the most of what they have

And is life fair??
Probably not.
But it doesn't matter WHY !!

Salam Damai.
Kampanye Damai Pemilu Indonesia 2009.

Butterfly Lesson

I'm sure most of us are familiar with this story. I myself have read this one hundreds of times.. yet never get bored with it.

Subhanallah.
A struggle paid off.

Salam Damai.
Kampanye Damai Pemilu Indonesia 2009.

For Parents.. and Parents-to-be

SOMETHING VERY IMPORTANT TO THINK ABOUT...

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.
He said, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."

We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said good-bye.

But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.
He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.

While I lay awake that night in my bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,
"While dealing with a stranger,

common courtesy you use,
but the children you love, you seem to abuse.
Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise.
You never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."

By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Please wake up, little one," I said.
"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"

He smiled, "I found 'em out by the tree.
I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."
I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay. I love you anyway."
I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."

Are you aware that if we died tomorrow,

the company that we are working for

could easily replace us in a matter of days.
But the family we left behind
will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.
And come to think of it, we pour ourselves
more into work than to our own family;
an unwise investment indeed, don't you think?

So what is behind the story?
Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY=(F)ather (A)nd (M)other, (I) (L)ove (Y)ou !

Salam Damai.
Kampanye Damai Pemilu Indonesia 2009.

Children live what they learn

A child that lives with ridicule learns to be timid

A child that lives with criticism learns to condemn

A child that lives with distrust learns to be deceitful

A child that lives with antagonism learns to be hostile

A child that lives with encouragement learns to be confident

A child that lives with truth learns justice

A child that lives with praise learns to be appreciative

A child that lives with sharing learns to be considerate

A child that lives with knowledge learns wisdom

A child that lives with patience learns to be tolerant

A child that lives with happiness will find love and beauty

Salam Damai.
Kampanye Damai Pemilu Indonesia 2009.

What kind of a person I am

A friend told me about this website. Out of my curiousity I tried to find out what kind of tarrot card I am. Here it goes:

You are The Sun Happiness, Content, Joy. The meanings for the Sun are fairly simple and consistent. Young, healthy, new, fresh. The brain is working, things that were muddled come clear, everything falls into place, and everything seems to go your way. The Sun is ruled by the Sun, of course. This is the light that comes after the long dark night, Apollo to the Moon's Diana. A positive card, it promises you your day in the sun. Glory, gain, triumph, pleasure, truth, success. As the moon symbolized inspiration from the unconscious, from dreams, this card symbolizes discoveries made fully consciousness and wide awake. You have an understanding and enjoyment of science and math, beautifully constructed music, carefully reasoned philosophy. It is a card of intellect, clarity of mind, and feelings of youthful energy.

Mmmm.. sounds nice, doesn't it?? ;)) I wish I were ....

Far from being superstitious.. this is just for fun... dont take this seriously ;))

Salam Damai.
Kampanye Damai Pemilu Indonesia 2009.

Life Priorities

A philosophy professor stood before his class and had some items in front of him. When class began, wordlessly he picked up a large empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, rocks about 2 inches in diameter.
He then asked the students if the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He then asked the students again if the jar was full.
They agreed it was.
The students laughed.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

"Now," said the professor, "I want you to recognize that this is your life"

" The rocks are the important things - your family, your partner, your health, your children - anything that is so important to you that if it were lost, you would be nearly destroyed.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car.

The sand is everything else. The small stuff."

"If you put the sand into the jar first, there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your energy and time on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play with your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out dancing.
There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal."

" Take care of the rocks first - the things that really matter.
Set your priorities.
The rest is just sand."

Salam Damai.
Kampanye Damai Pemilu Indonesia 2009.

Don't Quit

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you are treading seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest if you must,
But dont you quit

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many fellow turns about,
When he might have won had he stucked it out
Dont give up though the pace seems slow
You may succeed with another blow

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the Victory Cup,
And he learned too late when the night came down
How close he was to the Golden Crown

Success is failure turned inside out
The silver tint of clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar
So stick to the fight when you are hardest hit
It is when things seem worst
That you must not quit







Salam Damai.
Kampanye Damai Pemilu Indonesia 2009.

Be The Best Of Whatever You Are

If you can not be a pine on the top of the hill
Be a scrub in the valley, but
Be the best little scrub by the side of the rill
Be a bush, if you can not be a tree

If you can not be a bush, be a bit of the grass
And some highway happier make
If you can not be a muskie, then just be a bass
But the liveliest bass in the lake

We can not all be captain , we have got to be crew
There is something for all of us here
There is big work to do and there is lesser to do
And the task we must do is the near

If you can not be a highway,
Then just be a trail
If you can not be the sun, be a star
It is not by size that you win or you fail
BE THE BEST OF WHATEVER YOU ARE

(written by: Douglas Malloch)

Salam Damai.
Kampanye Damai Pemilu Indonesia 2009.